Tansform Your Relationship With Money and Change Your Life

Statistics show that within seven years of coming into money, the average person will be living at the same economic level as before the windfall appeared. The explanation for this typically lies in a person’s “money scripts”, the powerful beliefs they formed about money, usually in childhood. These money scripts tend to remain unconscious and tend to be “generational” in that they frequently get passed down from parent to child.

Money scripts can be difficult to spot because they’ll often feel “true” to the person and, in certain circumstances, may even be true. However, if they remain unquestioned, they mean we repeat patterns that deprive us of prosperity and peace of mind.

To give you an idea of what money scripts look like, here are some common ones:

WORKAHOLICS

Once you have enough money, then you’ll be able to relax and enjoy life
You must work hard for money
The more money you have, the happier and safer you will be
Your worth is determined by how much money you make

THOSE WHO HAVE MONEY

You can’t trust anyone with your money
People only want you for your money
You didn’t work for this money, so you don’t deserve it
You mustn’t lose, or make a mistake with, the money you’ve got

THOSE WHO DON’T HAVE MONEY

This isn’t enough money – so there’s no point in trying to save
You’re not worth more (so stay in the job you hate)
Money is bad / evil / unimportant
Rich people got that way by taking advantage of others
You deserve to treat yourself so spending beyond your means is okay

WOMEN

Husbands take care of money so wives don’t have to
Making money is difficult / overwhelming / impossible
You’ll never be able to earn enough, so you need a man with money

MONEY IN RELATIONSHIPS

Understanding what messages you received about money in your childhood is the first step to learning how to communicate with others about money. If you don’t understand your own history and “childhood tapes”, then conversations about money (with spouses, friends, family members, bosses) are unlikely to be as easy and straightforward as they could be.

Statistics suggest that 70% of marital breakdowns are due to money problems. Of course the arguments aren’t actually about the money per se – these disputes happen whether funds are tight or plentiful. What couples are really arguing about is their own attitude to money, and what it represents. Is money for spending and giving away? Is money for safety and security? Does money equal power in a relationship? Does money equal love? Is it acceptable for a wife to earn more than her husband? Does one have to share everything or is it okay to have secret funds (or secret debts) that your partner doesn’t know about?

All sorts of relationship dynamics can get unleashed around money which can represent so many things – power, control, safety, security, status, worth, love. According to research from the American Sociological Association, the more economically dependent a man is on his female partner, the more likely he is to cheat on her. Whilst for women, economic dependency seems to have the opposite effect.

Life changes that shift income – a promotion, a redundancy, giving up work to look after children – also typically shift the power balance in a relationship. When one member of the couple earns less, they may feel they have to take on the role of “pleaser” in the relationship, to make up for not bringing as much to the table. Equally, if the poorer partner feels beholden to the richer one, they’re likely to drop into victimhood or resentment (or both) especially if they’re having to ask for money which can feel humiliating and disempowering.

6 Things to Remember When Your Heart is Breaking…

It’s a dull, subdued sensation when your heart is breaking, like the muffled sound of a distant gunshot. It doesn’t physically pierce your skin or tear you to pieces, but the sensation is physically present – the paralyzing discomfort of realizing that something you took for granted is leaving for good.

Although it’s hard to accept at first, this is actually a good sign, having a broken heart. It means you have loved something, you have tried for something, and you have let life teach you.

Life will attempt to break you down sometimes; nothing and no one can completely protect you from this reality. Keeping it all inside and hiding from the world won’t either, for endless, stagnant solitude will also break you with unhealthy nostalgia and yearning. You need to speak with someone—a friend, a family member, a coach, a confidant—and open up about how you feel.

You have to stand back up and put yourself out there again. Your heart is stronger than you realize. I’ve been there and I’ve seen heartbreak through to the other side. It takes time, effort and patience.

Deep heartbreak is kind of like being lost in the woods – every direction leads to nowhere at first. When you are standing in a forest of darkness, you cannot see any light that could ever lead you home. But if you wait for the sun to rise again, and listen when someone assures you that they themselves have stood in that same dark place, and have since moved forward with their life, oftentimes this will bring the hope that’s needed.

It’s so hard to give you advice when you’ve got a broken heart, but some words can heal, and this is my attempt to give you hope. You are stronger than you know!

Please remember…

1. The person you liked or loved in the past, who treated you like dirt repeatedly, has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you in the present moment, but more headaches and heartache.

2. When you don’t get what you want, sometimes it’s necessary preparation, and other times it’s necessary protection. But the time is never wasted. It’s a step on your journey. Someday you’re going look back on this time in your life as such an important time of grieving and growing. You will see that you were in mourning and your heart was breaking, but your life was changing.

3. Some chapters in our lives have to close without closure. There’s no point in losing yourself by trying to hold on to what’s not meant to stay. Remember this, and always keep two simple questions in mind: What opportunities do I have right now? What’s one small, positive step forward I can take.

4. One of the hardest lessons to learn: You cannot change other people. Every interaction, rejection and heartbreaking lesson is an opportunity to change yourself only. And there is great freedom and piece of mind to be found in this awareness.

5. It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company. And when you do decide to give someone a chance, do so because you’re truly better off with this person. Don’t do it just for the sake of not being alone.

6. Be determined to be positive. Understand that the greater part of your misery or unhappiness from this point forward is determined not by your circumstances, but by your attitude. 💛

@Marc and Angel Hack Life

How A Lack Mentality During Covid-19 Can Hold You Back

“There is a natural law of abundance which pervades the entire universe, but it will not flow through a doorway of belief in lack and limitation.” ~ Paul Zaiter

A person who lives trapped in ‘lack mindset’ lives in a fear-based world of never having enough – money, time, connections, attention, rest, health, happiness, credentials, power or love.

Their conviction of scarcity distorts and constricts their thinking and can mask talents and skills that are vital to their personal success. Look at all the people who ran out to gather multiple of rolls of toilet paper.

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Living with a perspective of lack prevents the ability to take risks and cuts off the expectation for happiness and joy in life.

Examine Your ‘Lack’ Mentality:

Explore the following questions to reveal how scarcity consciousness operates in your day-to-day experiences. How many of these questions do you say ‘yes’ to?

Are you willing to applaud and acknowledge someone else’s success or does it make you uncomfortable, resentful, judgemental or jealous of that person?

Does someone’s success only shine a light on what you don’t have?
Do you often find yourself fearful of the future and doubt your ability to prosper?
Are you sparing with compliments, support, and service to others?
Do you feel depleted of energy and inspiration and find it difficult to relax and feel refreshed?
Do you feel you must compete with others for jobs, relationships, or money…or do you trust that you will always have what you need and want?
Does your need for money, opportunity or recognition cause you to be nervous, make you afraid to make a mistake and shut down your creativity as well as your desire to work with others?
When you are faced with decision, is it difficult to see solutions and open creatively to a universe of possibilities?
Even if you are successful in an endeavor, do you feel the pressure to earn more, have more or be more than you are right now?
Do you compare yourself to others and come up less than?
Does your life feel like a constant struggle with little potential for winning?
Is your glass half–empty?
Prison Break Action Steps to Overcoming Lack Mindset:

How you think and what you believe about life determines the choices you make and governs how you ultimately act toward yourself and others. Here are a few suggestions to help shift a ‘lack’ mindset to a more inclusive, open, and abundant approach:

Be grateful and appreciate others – express gratitude for the support and contributions of others;

Seek the possibility in challenges – instead of seeing an obstacle as a dead end;

Embrace the truth that there is more than enough – there is enough for everyone including you;

Connect with abundance – Make friends and connections with those who live from a prosperous mindset rather than those who express scarcity consciousness;

Adopt a positive life perspective – see the opportunity for growth in any life challenge;

Whatever you desire, give that to others – donate money to others, spend and give attention to those who are less fortunate;

Make time for reflection and self-care – use meditation, Breathwork, journaling, and/or therapy to understand, identify and alter your ‘lack’ programming

Pay attention to your ‘lack’ influences about the Coronavirus – become aware of what TV you watch, what you read – use positive material to uplift you;

Trust that you will have what you need– spend time remembering when you received what you needed (have you ever needed a parking spot in a busy lot and one suddenly appears? Did money show up from an unexpected source just when you needed it?)

The Vital Call to Shift Lack Mindset

Perspective, belief and thought create reality. A scarcity or lack mindset sets up an ‘us against them’ mentality that feels like your safety and survival are constantly under threat.

When you are able to identify and shift that thinking and deconstruct your fear-based view of life and the world, you make a contribution toward the fulfillment of prosperity on a global scale. It opens the door to your authentic abundant nature and the joy and happiness that is your BIRTHRIGHT!

 

Love Allison 💛

3 Things You Must Give Up to Move Forward Today!

The road ahead is wide open. You CAN move beyond your past and create an extraordinary life!

But first, you have to give up…

1.  Who you once were in the past. – When times get tough, our worst battle is often between what we remember and what we presently feel. Thus, one of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make is when to stay put and struggle harder or when to just take your memories/lessons and move forward. Sometimes you have to step outside of the person you’ve been, and remember the person you were meant to be, the person you are capable of being, and the person you truly are today.

2.  Over-thinking and worrying about everything. – When your fears have you looking too deep into things, it creates problems, it doesn’t fix them. If you think and you think and you think, you will think yourself right out of happiness a thousand times over, and never once into it. Worrying doesn’t take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace and potential. Stop over-thinking everything! Life is too short.

3.  Overlooking everything that’s wonderful right now. – When you stay stuck in regret of the life you think you should have had, you end up missing the beauty of what you do have. Not all the puzzle pieces of life will seem to fit together at first, but in time you’ll realize they do, perfectly. So thank the things that didn’t work out, because they just made room for the things that will. And thank the ones who walked away from you, because they just made room for the ones who won’t. What’s in front of you right now is a great opportunity!

The bottom line is that the biggest and most complex obstacle you will ever have to overcome is your own mind. Let that sink in for a moment. You aren’t responsible for everything that happens to you in life, but you ARE responsible for undoing the debilitating thinking patterns these undesirable outcomes create.

Are You Ignoring The Red Flags?

I’ve recently been asked questions regarding relationships and realized from my own experiences that ignored red flags are often a good intuitive image to help you process what you’re really feeling.

You shouldn’t ignore or excuse anything that strikes you as strange or makes you feel uncomfortable.

It’s essential to get to KNOW YOURSELF in every possible way before you move into a committed relationship. Often, individuals go in search of a relationship without this essential knowledge. But how can you ever hope to know another individual if you don’t know yourself first?

I’ve witnessed and ignored red flags and was even  red flag myself until I really knew and accepted ME!

At the end of a difficult relationship, people often say, “He (or she) told me who he (or she) was at the very beginning, but I just didn’t listen.”

A really good exercise I ask my clients to do is to write down every partner they’ve had a significant relationship with, and then, for each, answer questions such as: What attracted you to this person initially? Did the attraction last? Was your fantasy about this person—what you imagined or assumed to be true—validated in reality? How long did the relationship last? Did revelations during the course of the relationship change your mind? What was the deal breaker? Do any patterns, similarities from relationship to other relationships, emerge?

Learn to ask the hard questions out of the gate, the first or second time you meet someone, before opinions are solidly formed. Most of us seem to do much better when we have no real expectations of someone, because we hardly know who they are and are not yet trying to impress them.

And watch for red flags—indicators that something needs to be questioned or otherwise validated. Often these are clues that something may be trouble in the future. Here are 10 key relational red flags to look out for:

1. Lack of communication. These individuals find it difficult to talk about issues or express how they feel. Often, when it would seem most important to be open and honest, they distance themselves emotionally, leaving their partner hanging, or having to deal with a situation on their own. Often, whatever is “communicated” is expressed through moodiness, and sometimes the dreaded “silent treatment.”
2. Irresponsible, immature, and unpredictable. Some people have trouble mastering basic life skills—taking care of themselves, managing their finances and personal space, holding onto a job, and making plans for their life and future. Small crises surrounding the way they live their daily life may take up a lot of time and energy. If so, there may be little time and energy left for you and your issues. These people may still be working on growing up. In other words, it may be hard to rely on them for almost anything.
3. Lack of trust. When a person has difficulty being honest with himself or herself, it may be hard for them to be honest with you. Some of this behavior may not be calculated and malicious but simply a learned way or habit of coping. However, being out-and-out lied to is a no-brainer. A person who holds himself or herself unaccountable for their actions lacks integrity and lacks respect for their partner. You may feel, and rightly so, that there are a lot of “missing pieces,” so much that you don’t know or that is purposely hidden from you.
4. Significant family and friends don’t like your partner. If there is something “off” about this person that seems obvious to those who know you so well, you may need to listen to what they’re telling you. Often, in the throes of a new relationship, hearing criticism about your new “beloved” may not be welcome, but others may see things more clearly from an outsider’s perspective. At the very least, hear these people out.
5. Controlling behavior. Similarly, a partner may attempt to “divide and conquer,” driving a wedge between you and other significant people in your life. They may be jealous of your ongoing relationships with these people or simply feel the need to control where you go and who you associate with, limiting your world to allow in only what is important to them. Sometimes, they may make you choose them over significant others as an expression of “love.”
6. Feeling insecure in the relationship. You may often feel that you don’t know where you stand in a relationship. Rather than moving forward, building on shared experiences that should be strengthening your connection, you feel uncomfortable, uncertain, or anxious about where the it’s heading. You may seek reassurances from your partner, but somehow these are only momentary and fleeting. As a result, you may be working double duty to keep the relationship on track while your partner contributes little.
7. A dark or secretive past. Behaviors that are suspect, illegal activities, and addictive behaviors that haven’t been resolved and continue into your relationship are obvious red flags. But you shouldn’t ignore or excuse anything that strikes you as strange or makes you feel uncomfortable. (Of course, if a person has done the necessary corrective work and continues doing so for their own good and for the good of the relationship, that is a different story.)
8. Non-resolution of past relationships.These include not just intimate relationships but those with family members and friends. If a person is unable to evaluate why past relationships haven’t worked out, or consistently blames the other party for all of the problems, you can bet with a great deal of confidence that the same thing could happen with your relationship.
9. The relationship is built on the need to feel needed. Often we enter into a relationship strongly identified with our needs. The need may be that you, my partner, must do certain things for me to make me feel secure and satisfied, or that you allow me, your partner, to feel needed by fulfilling your needs. If this dynamic is the focal point of a relationship, however, there may be little room for real growth, individually or as a couple.
10. Abusive behavior. Finally, and of course, any form of abuse, from the seemingly mild to the overtly obvious—verbal, emotional, psychological, and certainly physical—is not just a red flag but a huge banner telling you to get out immediately and never look back.

Learn to trust what you feel. Your hunch is probably right.

 

 

 

 

Are you consistent?

In order to be successful in anything you do you MUST be consistent. In fact, that may be the reason why you haven’t reached your goals yet. Yikes.

Just think about it like this…

• Beyonce didn’t just drop one hit and become BEYONCE.
• Serena didn’t just pick up the rack occasionally to become the greatest tennis player in the world.
• You can’t get your dream body from just working out and eating healthy every once in a while.

Are you getting it now?

And I know, I know. It’s hard to be consistent when you’re doing it on your own. For a lot of us we consistently go work because we HAVE to. Which means we’re capable of being consistent in other areas too!

So think about something right now. One thing you want more than anything! A goal that you’ve been working towards for a minute but you just seem to keep falling off the wagon.

What is that one thing you can do everyday to help you get there?

Got it?! . . . . . Great!!!

Now, that’s you’ve got your goal, join the consistency challenge and keeping doing that one thing  you need to reach your goal for 30 days! That’s right for the ENTIRE month of JUNE!

I want you to win sooo bad!

Here are some tips on how to be consistent!

Keep your eye on your WHY?

Think about it like this. It’s way easier to save money when you have something you’re saving for like a house or car.

Find that something that keeps you going. What are you doing it for? Freedom, kids, spouse, happiness…? Remind yourself of this.

What’s the priority?

Raise of hands. How many of us has a longgg list of goals? . . . Ahem. Now, there is nothing wrong with that, but at the end of the day what is most important? What is priority. You need to figure this out to know what always comes first. This way you never have to get flabbergasted trying to figure out what goal you should tackle when things get to be ‘too much”. It will always be your priority.

Keep going. Fast.

We’re human, but we’re magical. You may get off track every once in a while BUT you must get right back on fast! Or else you’ll find yourself having to start over.

Know your triggers.

Sometimes you just feel out of it and you need that extra push, that extra sauce. For many people that push may be music, prayer, a motivational video. Whatever that thing is. Use it. Refresh and get back to work. Your dreams are ready to become reality.

Ignore your feelings.

There are gonna be days when you just don’t feel like it. But nobody cares so you HAVE too! Ignore those feelings and keep push. You got this.

Are yall ready!? We start the Consistency Challenge on June 1st.

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Love Allie 💛

What I Wish My Wife Knew

Do you ever wish you could get inside your husband’s head? However open and honest we might want to be in our marriages, there are still some things we wish our spouses knew without us having to tell them. For this reason, I’ve decided that every now and then we’ll address some of these tricky topics ourselves. I’ll start tonight with one of the trickiest topics…

Your husband cares about the way you look.

We have heard many times from many sources that “men are visual.” Still this is a tough topic for many men because historically we have made them feel like it is immature or shallow of them to put so much importance on physical appearance. It’s also a tough one because, since our husbands love us, they do not want to add to the unhealthy messages we receive from culture and the media that we simply are not good enough. How, then, can we take an honest look at this topic without condemning men for their “shallow” feelings or condemning ourselves for not measuring up?

Let’s start by looking back to what it was like before we got married. I don’t know about you, but I wanted to look cute every time I knew I was going to see Garrett. I wanted him to notice me and to be attracted to me. Thankfully, he did and he was. Understanding the ways that guys are visually stimulated worked to my advantage in those days. I understood it and I leaned into it. I made an effort to look good because I cared about the way he thought about me. I never got mad at him or felt resentful when I was looking for the perfect jeans so that he might take a glance as I walked away. I wanted him to be drawn to me.

I’ve heard women say countless times that it is frustrating to them that their husbands no longer romance them and do sweet things for them once they get married. As women, we want to be pursued by those thoughtful little details like we were in the beginning of the relationship. In the same way, I’ve come to learn that men felt similarly pursued by us when we used to make an effort to look our best just to see them. Just like we might miss the flowers and the love notes, he might miss seeing you in something other than sweat pants and a baggy shirt.
Really, I’m preaching to myself here. I work from home and most days wear a uniform for gigs. Some days my office may be on the couch in my yoga pants, cozy hoodie and fuzzy socks.
I realize that my attitude about my appearance could take a toll on my relationship with my husband and we’re still in the honeymoon phase (which is 2 years by the way).

I know …I know what you’re thinking. “Wait until you’ve been married 5, 10 or 15 years”! Well I’ve decided to set my intentions and change my perspective early on.

What if, instead of making our husbands feel like jerks for caring about the way we look, we could remember how much we wanted to look good for them when we were first together? They don’t need us to look like someone else. They just want us to know that they are delighted when we thoughtfully make an effort to care about our own appearance the same way we are delighted when they thoughtfully bring home fresh flowers. Your husband does care about the way you look, but not more than he cares about you and wants to be married to you. 💛

The Emotional Toll of Clutter

What is your space saying about you — and what is it doing to your energy, mood and outlook on life?

What Is Your Stuff Saying to You?
Different kinds of clutter signify different emotional messages. Here are a few of the most common.

Piles of Other People’s Stuff
You may have trouble setting boundaries, saying no and protecting your own energy reserves. Set time limits for storing other people’s belongings, if you’re going to store them at all, and be firm.

Excessive Reminders of the Past
You might have a tendency to blame the past for your current situation, or to think your best days are behind you. Try letting go of any object — however lovely or sentimental — if looking at it disturbs you or brings you down.

Rarely Used or Never-Been-Used Items
Stacks of unopened or unused items can signal “just in case” thinking, and a lack of trust in the future. They can also signal an aspiration to do or be something you’re not. Make a realistic assessment, then either use or dispense with whatever your “wish self” is hanging on to.

Unfinished Projects
Half-completed paintings and half-finished remodels can suggest an unsustainable perfectionism, and may provoke a sense of failure. Take stock of all the projects you currently have “in process.” Then be willing to let go, clean up and move on.

 

How to Pray to God for a Miracle

Praying Passionately, Positively, and With Praise

There is no special formula to follow when you pray for a miracle. Since your spiritual journey is unique and distinctive, your method of praying for a miracle will be unique and distinctive too! Develop a prayer routine that aligns with your understanding of what it means to pray passionately, persistently, precisely, positively, and with praise.

1. Pray passionately.

As you pray, allow yourself to be moved by God’s power and grace. Pray with an open and receptive heart. Don’t subdue your emotions—let them out! When you feel moved to tears, allow yourself to cry. When you feel the need to shout, yell! When the spirit calls you to sing, belt out a psalm! Allow your emotions to wash over you.Express how you feel to God and don’t hold back. Pray for your miracle with blind, passionate faith.
Pray takes many forms. You may feel more connected to God when you’re singing or reading and studying the Bible. Allow your times of worship to become prayers to God.
Find what works for you! Everyone is at a different point in their spiritual journey. There is more than one way to connect to God.

2. Pray positively.

Place your faith in God and trust that God will answer your prayers. Remain positive throughout your prayer. Avoid negative phrases including “I know this is a long shot…” and negative thoughts. When you don’t trust in God’s capabilities, you are praying with a doubtful heart. Confess your fears and doubts to God. Allow your passionate faith and blind trust in God remove the burden of doubt from your heart. Remain focused on what God is capable of accomplishing. Be comforted by the knowledge that God is a loving, all-powerful being.
When a doubt or fear arises, don’t wallow in it. Let it go! Do not allow yourself to worry over whether or not your desire will come true. Simply trust that you’ve done everything you can to make it happen. Turn to God in prayer and ask that God alleviate you from the doubt or fear.

3. Pray with praise.

Get creative! Find a meaningful way to personally thank God. Praise God in prayer, thought, and deed. Thank God with a prayerful song, a thought of thanksgiving, or with a kind act. Praise God for His guidance and wisdom. Thank God for calming your fears, for alleviating your self-doubt, and for giving you hope. Praise God for his faithfulness and commitment to you. Sing his praises when your life is at its highest of highs and its lowest of lows. Be grateful to God in all that you do.
Thank God for what He has done in the lives of others.

Love Allie💛

 

The Blessing is Seeing the Innocence in Everyone

 

I read “A Return To Love” by Marianne Williamson and it totally changed my perspective of the behavior of people and seeing their innocence. It’s not only expanded my compsssion but has opened a pathway to blessings in my own life.

You ever say or heard someone else say: ‘Don’t mind Sue, she didn’t know what  she was doing.”?  This is getting exposed to the wisdom of “going beyond behavior.”

I have children and I very well know the importance of this simple act of forgiveness. If we all had based our love on our children’s behavior, then perhaps none of us would ever have been loved when we were young!

There are many times when you face a situation where someone you love very much just behaves so unreasonable or irrational. I think we need to look beyond behavior and extend this same loving-kindness toward everyone we meet.

I believe we would be then living in a more loving world if, when someone acted in a way that we don’t approve of, we could see their actions in a similar light as our teenager’s offbeat behavior. Perhaps our own behavior in another time or situation in our life.

I am not saying that we walk around ignorant and pretend that everything is always wonderful and allow others to “walk all over us”, or that we excuse or approve of negative behavior.

I simply mean that we must have a perspective to give others benefit of doubt. It is about knowing when someone around you is moving slowly, is disinterested, he is probably having a bad day, or perhaps he thinks all his days are bad.

When your spouse or close friend snaps at you, try to understand that, beneath this isolate act, your loved one really wants to love you, and to feel loved by you. We must look beyond behavior. It is not easy but you can try. It does give some good results.

One of the most frustrating aspects of life is not able to understand other people’s behavior. I have often seen them as “guilty” instead of “innocent.” It is alluring to focus on people’s irrational behavior – their actions, their comments, mean-spirited acts, selfish conduct – and get extremely frustrated.

I believe we focus too much on behavior, it does make our life miserable.

People do weird things – who doesn’t? But we are the ones getting upset, so I trust we are the ones who need to change. Am I talking about ignorance, acceptance, or advocating violence or any other deviant behavior? Well NO! I am talking about learning to be less bothered by the actions of people.

Seeing innocence could be a transformation tool which means that when someone is acting in a way we don’t like, the best way to deal with it is to distance ourselves from the behavior and look beyond it, so that we see the innocence and the root cause of the behavior. Does that make us more compassionate then?  YES!

I have lived and worked with people who had absolutely irrational behavior. If I had focused on the words they used, their tone of voices, and their body language, I could have got annoyed or even angry in my responses. I could see them as ‘guilty”.

But I looked beyond this and then it allowed me to see the innocence in their behavior. Truth underneath even the most vexing behavior is a frustrated person who is crying out for compassion.

So I believe that we all must look for innocence & look beyond behavior. Be compassionate and we will not find it hard to see the innocence. When you see it the same things that irritate you or have frustrated you no longer cease to exist.

And moreover when you are not frustrated by the actions of others, it a lot easier to stay happy and enjoy the beauty of life.

Love Allie💛